There are some days where I feel like I’m in an episode of Game of Thrones except instead of battling for an iron throne I am battling with a toddler for her to take a nap or eat or get in her car seat. The list goes on. She’s defiant, independent, strong-willed, and full of strong opinions and personality at the ripe old age of 13 months. She’s been early on all of her milestones so does that mean we are getting the terrible two’s out of the way early? Is this what they mean by “what goes around comes around” because guess who she takes after? Yep! I’m getting a taste of my own medicine right about now.
On the bright side, strong-willed children make for amazing adults like me! Haha! I’m sure that is debatable but nonetheless I am a go-getter who believes anything is possible so long as you have the will and drive to achieve it. I think that’s a good quality in an adult don’t you? I really hope my daughter inherits some of that spirit. I have a feeling she has.
Do you have an inkling that your child is strong-willed? Well here are 10 signs that you’ve got your hands full mama!
- Changing their diaper is like wrestling with a fish. They do NOT like to be put on their backs regardless of whether or not their diaper is full and bothering them.
- Nap time is always a battle. Doesn’t matter if they are rubbing their eyes, yawning, walking like a drunken sailor because they are so exhausted. They will. not. go. down. easily.
- If you try to feed them they want nothing to do with it. However, when you give them the spoon they suddenly are ravenous and eat like champions.
- Brushing their teeth is just a nightmare. The only way their teeth get brushed is if you just hand them the toothbrush to do it themselves and hope they do a somewhat of a thorough job. Hey, a little brushing is better than no brushing right?
- The car seat is the devil. The minute they so much as see it they arch their backs like yoga instructors. Who knew humans could bend the way your strong-willed child bends in order to not fit in the car seat.
- The whole concept of “winding down” doesn’t apply to your kid. They refuse to wind down. It’s either 100 miles an hour or out like a light. No matter how hard you try to facilitate a “winding down” period there is absolutely no in between. Period.
- Nothing gets past them. If they see that steak knife they’ve been desperately trying to play with and you “hide” it they KNOW. And they don’t forget. So then you spend the next 20 minutes trying to convince them that there are other toys that are way cooler than the steak knife. Doesn’t work. All they want is that steak knife and they stage a stake out (hehe ) by the drawer it’s hidden in until they finally lose interest.
- Gates, play pens, barriers of any sort just piss them off.
- Keeping shoes and socks on them is just pointless. My daughter has yet to discover how to take her clothes off, but I’m sure when she figures it out then it will just be pointless to keep clothes on her.
- They are full of personality and while it can be extremely exhausting at times you wouldn’t have it any other way.
This quote from Sarah Stogryn’s blog is just perfect. As a mother of a strong-willed girl, I find I must remember this sentiment especially during those trying moments where I’m at my wits end. I must remember that she comes from a strong-willed mama and that I am the way I am because the spirit was most certainly not tamed out of me. Just make sure you have plenty of coffee and red wine on hand to get through those especially trying days and you’ll be fine. I feel for you mamas & papas. Stay strong